Heartbreaks are one of the hardest things to deal with in life. There are so many emotions that you go through and it literally becomes physical pain, like your heart hurts so bad! Then after the breakup, there’s the pain of moving on. Letting go of someone you love no matter how bad they hurt you, is another hurdle you have to deal with. Whoever said love was easy needs a slap 👋🏿! It’s all so complicated in this generation.
I can’t show you how to deal with a breakup because we all heal differently and at different rates but if you made up your mind to move on I hope this helps.
1) Stop blaming yourself
At the end of every failed relationships you always ask yourself ‘what’s wrong with me? Was I not good enough? Am I not pretty or educated enough?’ So many questions that can destroy your self esteem and that needs to stop. It’s really not your fault that he cheated or he’s abusive or doesn’t love you anymore or whatever the reason is. You’re amazing and the right person will love you for all your flaws and they will appreciate you. It sounds like such a cliche but it’s true.
2) No contact
We all know that one friend that breaks up with her man then claims they are just friends now and once week later they are back together and she get hurts again. It’s really bad cycle to be on. Trying to be friends or keeping them on your social media straight after a break up doesn’t work. You will end up back with or atleast wanting to be back with them because the feelings are still there. We all love to keep our ex’s on our social medias to see what they’re up too and that doesn’t help. You just end up checking their page every 5 seconds and driving yourself crazy.
3) Girls night
Nothing treats a heart break like a wild girls night out with all your favourite ladies. It’s really important to surround yourself with people that will cheer you up and support you during this hard time wether it’s to talk about your feelings or to go out every night. So send a message to the group chat, get everyone together and have some fun.
4) Focus on yourself
You need to get busy so your mind is not just focused on the breakup. Focus on yourself and the things that make you really happy apart from being in a relationship. It is extremely important to have happiness in yourself and not depend on relationships to be happy. Otherwise you will always be in relationships even if they are bad for you. Every time I went through a break up I always went to the gym, focused on my career and God. You need to focus on your goals and everything you want to achieve in life. Walk in your path and you will meet the right people along the way.
5) Dates are fun
Have some fun and go on a few dates. This will help you get back out there and not just dwell on the past. It doesn’t need to be anything serious but talking to someone new or just flirting with the cute guy at the bar might be refreshing. They are plenty of fishes in the sea so put on that little black dress and enjoy your life. Life is too short to stay in the house crying over the past.
I hope this helps. If you have any questions or dilemmas please send us an email and we will advise as much as possible.